The trouble with Relationships

The trouble with Relationships

Relationships are difficult. Sometimes it seems that the more that you care, the more difficult the relationship becomes. The reason that this is so is, because we are driven by two opposing equally strong forces. No wonder we are confused and bewildered. We are driven equally and oppositely towards selfishness and selflessness. Love creates the conflict as well as the motivation to craft a path through this minefield. Understanding what drives us (crazy) gives insight and direction on how to…

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Skills In Order to Build a Happy Life: Being Present; Gratitude and Emotional Regulation

Skills In Order to Build a Happy Life: Being Present; Gratitude and Emotional Regulation

BEING PRESENT Most often we are focused in the future or in the past, how ever it is only in the present that you can have any impact. It is difficult to be here now because it is going against nature. We are designed to ruminate on past mistakes and to endlessly plan for the future. These are important, but in order to have a happy life, you have to work at being present. After all you can not enjoy…

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Mental Health and Evolution

Mental Health and Evolution

It is helpful to consider the original evolutionary purpose of a condition, in order to understand it and to treat it. There are 4 classes of mental disorders. The first is the group that is characterized by excessive energy. This would include anxiety, panic attacks, obsessive compulsive disorder, insomnia and phobias. These conditions exhibit the fear network. Inability to relax, raised heart rate, obsessive¬† thinking, ritualized behavior and superstitious thinking. The second is its opposite, this group of conditions is…

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Happiness Is A Skill

Happiness Is A Skill

You have to learn how to live a happy life because we are not programmed for happiness. We are programmed for survival, not today, but 50,000 years ago. Our environment has changed radically, but not our bodies.¬† Our biologically driven urges feel natural, normal and sometimes irresistible but that does not necessarily mean that it is in our best interest to follow them. We are often driven to act in very destructive ways. We like fatty, salty and sweet foods…

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